I was tired of debating the merits of therapy with Miss Cathy week in and week out.
After so much Sturm und Drang I realized it was her life and she could not examine it if she didn’t want to.
Some days she’d tell me that the sessions were no more than gossip, other times that the therapist was very smart and she’d learned a lot but inevitably she’d ask me, “How long do I have to keep going before I can stop?”
How she could even contemplate stopping when she’d only just started baffled and frustrated me, but, her questioning the process was insightful and it told me she wasn’t actively participating (meaning she probably wasn’t dealing with any of her core life issues) in her sessions (not in any meaningful way it seemed).
It was amazing to me how she could even try to quantify seventy-five years of neurosis and think that she should be ‘cured’ in less time than it takes to get a reservation at a four star Michelin rated restaurant in Manhattan….but, hey, I’m just saying (to you anyway).
To Miss Cathy I said, “You can cancel if you want but you’ll still have to pay for the session”.
“It’s up to you, what do you want to do?” I asked, reminding her that her appointment was in less than two hours,
“I’ll got then”, she said grudgingly, “but I’m not going back.”
Instead of listing all the reasons why she should continue with therapy I simply said, “Fine by me, do what you want, you always do.”
So, I took mom to her session and wrote in my journal as I waited for her.
Afterward her therapist brought me into the room to announce that she and Miss Cathy had come to an agreement.
Miss Cathy would commit to going to the Senior Center and become more engaged in her life and if she did this with some regularity then she wouldn’t have to come to therapy as often.
I was skeptical but gave my right to an opinion when I announced earlier that I didn’t care anymore. I was alittle surprised and put off (read: pissed off) that I was asked to agree to “sitting down for at least one meal a week with Miss Cathy”.
How the hell did I get roped into this? Whatever….. I shrugged but agreed.
Time will tell if she holds up her end of the bargain or if she simply reverts back to her old habits and all her promises evaporate like water off a duck’s back.